The past six months have passed in silence…at least in this space.
Over the past 6 months, there have been an insane amount of changes in our lives.
I took a new job as marketing manager for the local bakery.
Kraut took a new job doing demand planning for the same company his dad works for.
That means that our commutes and schedules have completely flip-flopped. I work in the office two days/week, and Kraut commutes Monday-Friday. We have weekends together as a family for the first time in over 8 years. We have the kids in daycare on my work days, and that’s honestly good for them. It’s been a lot of adjusting, as I’m now in charge of the household (and working from home).
As a result, I’ve stopped coaching. (To be honest, I was taking everything way too personally and needed to step back, it wasn’t good for me mentally/emotionally). I haven’t been able to attend ballet as much as I would like. I haven’t been working out. I haven’t been able to attend band rehearsals. My life has been revolving around work, daycare, swim lessons, swim team, baseball, Kinderchor, and other kid activities — as well as cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.
I’ll admit — I’m feeling like I’m drifting. I absolutely love the bakery and my coworkers. I love the business. But I’m not fulfilled by marketing anymore. I’m feeling overwhelmed by everything, and I take each hurdle and issue personally.
I feel like I’m withdrawing. There are all these things that I *want* to do, but I’m so overwhelmed that I feel like I can’t. Or shouldn’t — that there are other things I should be doing. I haven’t been able to spend time with friends, and I feel like I’m damaging some relationships.
I’m just stuck. I feel like what I *want* and what I am actually doing are so very, very far apart.
Part of the problem is that I can’t focus in on what it is that I really want. There are several directions I’d like to go, but I can’t decide which one to go after and which are actually viable or best for our family.
I want to teach. That’s what I went to college for, however shortlived. I’d love to go back to school for a teaching degree, but I don’t know if I can do it — at least not while working full-time. That’s not financially feasible for us, so again, I’m stuck.
I want to work outside. I want to farm — livestock. Goats, horses, sheep? Working with my hands, outside, is something I have always LOVED. Working with animals is my passion. But can it make a living enough to help support the family? Big gambles. The initial investment is so very high, too.
In the meantime, anxiety and depression are nipping at my heels. I’m focusing on being present for my kids, but feel like I’m ignoring my own needs. I am struggling to find the balance in my life.
I’m not sure which direction I’ll go from here. I guess we’ll see where the next 6 months take us…